In spring 2018, perhaps Little Prince knew that I love him very much that I won’t have the heart to beat him, he started to whine and argue with me over some of my directions for him.
While I have to deal with backstabbers and uncooperative colleagues, I also have to deal with a little whiner – in his Italian accent (I don’t know where he picked it up)- at home. Whining can drive any parent crazy. My mother shared that I was a very easy child, I didn’t complain and can self-entertain myself. In contrast, Honey Panda is still often complaining about many things in life, though he works on the solution too.
I pray and hope that Little Prince will evolve into a better human being. Apart from this, I am thankful that Little Prince has a lot of plus points, that make him likable by little girls and their parents.
To deal with whiners:
- keep calm
- How? by nurturing our inner strength
- transfer our calmness to our little ones by holding (hugging) them if I feel that it’s a genuine cry of help
- refuse to let whining bother me and just keep my facial expression neutral; “If you can’t stand whining, your child will do it even more, simply because it gets a reaction“
- learn to understand people
- whiners may feel helpless and overwhelmed, their standard is perfection .
- children whine when they’re overwhelmed.
- neither agree nor disagree with whiners
- agreeing with whiners will just encourage them to keep on complaining.
- disagreeing with whiners will make them feel compelled to repeat their problems.
- teach our children to distinguish between whiny and pleasant voices, so they can learn to use the latter.
- record both her whiny and pleasant voices and then play them back for her.
- ask them how questions; don’t ask them why they are complaining as this will invite them to start all over from the beginning.
- ask them how the can solve their problems (focus on solutions not problems).
- team up with whiners to form a problem-solving alliance.
 Yes, I have observed that as of 20180501, Little Prince can be pretty perfectionist.