Why telling someone to be grateful may not work?

In summer 2017, I realized that I would prefer to sincerely express my gratitude, instead of telling someone (including Little Prince and Little Princess) to be grateful.

To inspire, we need to willingly act (not just talk).

Why?

  1. Gratitude is a feeling and feelings change.
  2. Telling someone to be grateful as things could be worse does not acknowledge how emotion actually works; such a telling invalidates the person’s feeling. Human’s feelings are genuine and undeniable, though the reason(s) behind the feelings may be irrational to others.
  3. Telling someone to be grateful may be perceived as shaming or coercing him/her into being grateful.
  4. Being told that we should be thankful for something we don’t want or don’t like can be annoying.
  5. We shouldn’t be grateful out of guilt or shame for wanting more wealth, success, or justice. We should be grateful because gratitude empowers us.

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