In summer 2017, I realized that I would prefer to sincerely express my gratitude, instead of telling someone (including Little Prince and Little Princess) to be grateful.
To inspire, we need to willingly act (not just talk).
- Gratitude is a feeling and feelings change.
- Telling someone to be grateful as things could be worse does not acknowledge how emotion actually works; such a telling invalidates the person’s feeling. Human’s feelings are genuine and undeniable, though the reason(s) behind the feelings may be irrational to others.
- Telling someone to be grateful may be perceived as shaming or coercing him/her into being grateful.
- Being told that we should be thankful for something we don’t want or don’t like can be annoying.
- We shouldn’t be grateful out of guilt or shame for wanting more wealth, success, or justice. We should be grateful because gratitude empowers us.