How to be kind?

One of my prayers for both Little Prince and Little Princess is that they grow into kind people. Kindness, rooted in love (agape kind of love), is the quality of being friendly, generous, considerate and compassionate.

Kindness is ‘Pure Love’ expressed / experienced / realized ~ ‘Human Kindness’ defines the fate of Humankind.” ~ Jaime Corpus Reyes

How to be kind?

  1. be kind to yourself 1st. First love yourself [0]. Affirm to ourselves “I love myself for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now” and here.
  2. be kind with protective shields [1].
  3. be kind with right priorities. Be careful not to waste fruitless efforts of trying to please everyone that end up pleasing nobody. To quote John Lennon in The Beatles Anthology, “Trying to please everybody is impossible – if you did that, you’d end up in the middle with nobody liking you. You’ve just got to make the decision about what you think is your best, and do it.” See the priorities in my bucket list [2].
  4. be kind with tact. Well-meaning people can harm others (including selves) if their actions are without tact.
  5. remember to 敬人 + 容人 + 助人, as advocated by Confucius 人不敬我,是我无才;我不敬人,是我无德; 人不容我,是我无能;我不容人,是我无量; 人不助我,是我无为;我不助人,是我无善!
  6. understand reciprocity [3]
  7. pay it forward [4].

[0] Regardless of our shortcomings and flaws, remember a #pandaMnemonic FLY: First Love Yourself. “Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.” ~ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.

[1]
grep “20161023 lesson” ref2016/*txt
grep “20161124 lesson pte” ref2016*/*txt

[2] Depending on the spatiotemporal context of our life, our priorities change and we must adapt.

[3] On 20161115, I received a beautiful gift of orchid flowers that my mother loved. I must not worry of not being able to reciprocate to the giver, as long as I do all I can to reciprocate, if not I will pay it forward.

To remember the essences of #pandaMnemonic that sounds like ‘reconcile‘: ReCoSAL- for REciprocity (good cop/bad cop) + COmmitment and consistency + Social proof (monkeys see monkeys do) + Authority + Liking + Scarcity ()

[4] In Winter 2016 in Middle East, I learned a liberating thought from my father. While we would never be able to repay the love that our parents have given us (e.g. mothers who risked / sacrificed their lives to give birth, a father who sacrificed his passion to care for his sick daughter), we could love our children, grandchildren and great grandchildren as much as we could. Pay it forward!

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