As of 20151005, we are almost finishing 40% of the allocated time for project C (which is a sub-project of project S). That means that I am left with 9-10 more weeks to endure. Yes, I am counting down. All things are passing.
I learned the followings about myself:
- I can enjoy working with collaborative and supportive people, for example those whom I fortunately worked with in summer 2009 in USA.
- If I need to deal with non-collaborative people, I prefer to work independently.
- While working in a team, other members may not accept my proposed creative / efficient solutions. The votes of the majority and/or the voice of more domineering / assertive person determine the decision (accept or reject). This is the price that I must accept to pay in exchange for team’s support.
- Integrating what I learned from Joseph Murphy, I can harness the power of my subconscious mind to use my current work to prepare the essential skills and opportunities for the next work that allows me to create and contribute more on things that can bring goodness to our clients / customers and those whom we serve, instead of dealing with office politics.
- While I crave to use my work to serve and help others, I do not enjoy dealing with the irrational demands, complains, conflicts of others that I must help solve.
- I realize that even if a paid work does not directly help any client / customer, the earned income is still helping at least a person, even if that person is just me or little prince or an elderly parent whom an unmarried worker is supporting. Thus, every paid work can be meaningful.
- While I am less prone to anger as I age, I observe that I still made decisions due to excessive empathy and sympathy.
- I submitted Enterprising (E), Artistic (A), Investigative (I) as my work style / Strong Interest Inventory to O*Net Online as recommended by the University of Virginia, and the following occupations match my chosen interests: film and video editors, sustainability specialists, reporters and correspondents, industrial-organizational psychologists, urban and regional planners. Then, I tried submitting Investigative (I), Artistic (A), and Social (S). In a nutshell, the recommended occupations include psychologists, therapists, and teachers. Interesting specific occupations include art therapists who have high freedom to make decision, marriage and family therapists / clinical psychologists / psychiatrists (while people tell me that I have a pair of patiently listening ears, I feel the burdens and troubles of others, so perhaps not this occupation!), neuropsychologists and clinical neuropsychologists (bright outlook, pediatric neuropsychologists sound interesting to me), genetic counselors, professors in education or mathematical concepts, statistics, and actuarial science. Perhaps, I can also be a freelance paid tutor for the children of the high net worth family interested to gain admissions to ivy leagues and voluntary tutor for the children from under-privileged backgrounds.
I also learned the followings about others:
- While I want to naively believe in the human potentials, I accept that there are people whom we better not work with, for the sake of our health and sanity, as well as the completion and success of the projects. We must learn and master how to anticipate to prevent being in the same teams as them, but sometimes we have no choice.
- Some people are friendly but when it comes to delivering what they have agreed on, they are not reliable. For example, SJ.
- Some people are friendly and nice (appear nice) but calculative and expect gratitude in return. For example A, her bosses JB.
- Some people are friendly and appear to agree with you in private, but may say different things when dealing with another person in private. For example, D.
When we face challenges, it is always a good practice to reflect and ask questions so that we can deal better with the challenges.
- What are your preferred working mode? I love to hear from you.
- What are examples of work that allow one to help and serve others, with minimal human conflicts?
- What technical skills that I need to develop and master to allow me to be able to serve in those kind of work?
- What observations from both street smart and academically smart people that I can learn and emulate to perform my work better?
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